“Anyone who is making the conscious decision to irrevocably love some other person – is mothering.” Krystal Simpson

The reality for so many mothers today is that we are faced with comparison from sun up to sun down. When we pick up our phone, turn on a movie, or drive down the highway, we are being presented with an idea of Motherhood that just isn’t always reality.

We see influencers with the perfect outfits, roots that never grow out, aesthetically pleasing homes with nary a toy out of place, and cute little cut up pieces of cheese with thoughtful notes packed away in lunch boxes. We see moms who appear to be “doing it all” – they’re bossing like a boss, got a fitness routine to envy, and all the while manage to keep the laundry done.

Seriously let’s give a high five to all those moms. And, it’s ok for us to recognize that there is more to the story. And mothering isn’t always picture perfect. There are mothers who are silently at home, creating a loving space for their kids, and just trying to make ends meet. There are mothers that have said, “good riddance” to keeping up with the whoevers and are just making beauty out of their own chaos. We all have a story to tell. And every mother, from the stay-at-home moms to the CEOs, are making a difference in this world.

We want to recognize that sometimes, the journey to motherhood can be messy. Some of us come to motherhood unconventionally. Some of us, while not biological mothers, are still mothers to so many that we welcome into our homes. So, to those with complicated family relationships, who have lost a loved one, or who have struggled with infertility and loss, we see you. And we honor you too. Biological, adoptive, surrogacy, fostering, and even the women who have never become a mother on paper, but have still been a mother figure to the children in their lives — This is #MotherhoodUndefined. Here we’re sharing two stories of real moms who have come to motherhood in their own ways, both sharing the thread of adoption.

Meet Krystal

Meet Fallon

Vittoria Allen

Vittoria is a writer based in San Diego. A lover of good food, slow living, and a good novel, she shares her life with her husband and two daughters trying to squeeze out the beauty in every moment.

May 8, 2022